Another aspect of this is that we get what we want. 

If we’re willing to fight about something all the time then we usually get into fights. 

Being willing-to is an operative state of readiness. Being ready, willing to  fight, we’re always pretty ready to do what we want to do. 

But what if we noticed at some point that when we fight with another being, we don’t really feel that great? (Notice that, by the way.) 

And what if we thought that it might be more fun to not fight and it might feel better? 

Would we maybe be willing to go that route? What would happen is that the peace you had from not fighting would be so fun that next time you remembered the fun and started to develop a non-fight-willing or peace attitude. 

So you experience the peace your willing. And yet some things are worth fighting for, like peace, but it’s not really a fight but an action toward peace. 

Tricky stuff though, when you’re trying to mix a volatile cocktail of two possibly dissimilar elements:  peace and thinking. 

So be careful out there and just be willing first and see what comes of it.