So many of us, probably nearly all, carry around a hurt and it never seems to really let up. We experience pain of all kinds: physical, emotional, mental, so much that it’s an influencing factor in huge, obvious and unseen, corrosive ways.

To cope, we stuff it, paper over it, blog about it , ignore it, carry it limping around under the strain, forgetting we’re limping instead of skipping along to our next great experience.

Yes, we’re very aware of the problem and it does not seem to diminish it by applying a bunch of smileys around the edge.
‘ I don’t like it, I’m never gonna, so stop trying to get me to like of it.’, etc. are valid responses.
And we could admit that the cheap stuff we have swilled, to block it a little so we can put out our other fires, doesn’t really make a lasting difference. We tried to take a variety of snake oil to alleviate the symptoms, hope the problem goes away, and yet there it is- still.
You’re still devastated, and you don’t want to be hit with the pepper spray of ridicule and happy-making from others who say get over it. But they mean well, as we all do.
And yet there is a way to get relief. Please consider the following ideas that will change how you look, at it and at you:
Deep down in our hidden pedigree, we are all, everyone, actually beautiful creatures of love, life, peace, meant to create, meant to get it, meant to give it,, meant for each other, and ultimately, to appreciate the big picture of our perfect, peopled, planet.
As a natural part of this awesome actual paradigm, we have a tendency to not be able to digest certain things that seem very unlike the love that we are meant to be about. So many things we seem  to encounter are so unlike us. Our pain is awful, we protest, by all of the horrific feelings up for us.
But understand that you’re supposed to feel and experience awful because of these unnatural things!

Get that it’s appropriate to feel bad in some experiences , just because of who you beautifully really are.

Important Hint: Seen a certain way, everything can be used for something . Seen a certain way.
Your hot-stove-burn was an effective lesson, and that vivid,past-but-still-present, pain experience is saved by you, and saves you in the future.
Agree with your pain, and begin to possibly allow this next tip in as a potential to-do to consider to do:
Revisit a short, but graphic version of a negative experience and play it to yourself, as you likely do anyway. But this time, instead of hating it as something devastating that happens like it did and does, just imagine that you might actually use that devastating thing for something. But what?, you say.
Here’s something helpful- and don’t try this at home, using your old bag of tricks:
You could maybe send it love.
And maybe this could open up something about it that I had not seen.
Consider this thought gently.
‘ I might want to send it love, just to see. Okay, maybe I’ll send it love. But it’s not in the old bag.’
Here’s a way to get you a new one:
Say to some part of you: ‘I’m really tired of this pain I want some help with it. I wonder if that might be possible, but I don’t think I have ever been there and done that. So no way of doing it comes up for me. I can barely imagine something simple could help me see something which can’t ever be restored or forgotten. Please send me a way of seeing or saying, or trying, just a little and don’t hurt me. ‘
Yes, that’s close and make it your own words of your own way of the SOS. And I’m telling you to just allow that there might be something to it. And here’s where so much healing gets delayed- because we’ve been scammed to believe that nothing’s fixable in any way. Stop believing that.
Because of your innate power to create, get that you make the difference by requesting actual help to arrive within you, to have a new sense opened to you. Know this is possible. Know you don’t know and wait for it. And stay on the line.